Monday, April 30, 2012

ANOTHER LUKA WEEKEND

My grandson is gurgling in the next room as I write, this early morning.  It's a wonderful sound--though I suspect it might soon turn to protest, once he gets bored with his mobiles, and with testing out his limbs against the air.  In a few days he will be six months old, and it's an amazing thing to watch how change and grow.  Most remarkable of all is to see the human brain in the learning process, because it is easily observable in the way he pays attention to the world around him and responds to it.  He has virtually no control over any of it, so he can do little but absorb it all through his watchful eyes.  He has certainly discovered how to make his needs known, and is not reticent to use the magnificent power of his lungs to get the attention of the strange giants that hover solicitously around him.

I learn along with him, that's the joy of it.  I say, not jokingly, that Luka is a wonderful teacher--though, as is the case with all good teachers, his teaching is not always easy or welcome.  He requires more patience than I sometimes have, and demands an expenditure of physical and emotional energy that can be exhausting to one somewhat more advanced in years than he. His own energy is relentless, expressed in a body that's in constant movement.  It's a strong body, too.  His grip grows more powerful daily, and I notice that he is constantly putting his leg muscles to the test, thrusting upward in the attempt to stand.  He still requires a little propping up to sit, but it won't be long before he can do it by himself.

It won't be long, I know, before he's crawling about and getting into everything he shouldn't.  Better enjoy the moment when he can be relied upon to be in one place!


Early Morning Buddhist Inspiration - 4/30/2012

"It is wrong to think that misfortunes come from the east or from the west; they originate within one's own mind. Therefore, it is foolish to guard against misfortunes from the external world and leave the inner mind uncontrolled."
~Shakyamuni Buddha

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Early Morning Buddhist Inspiration - 4/30/2012

"It is wrong to think that misfortunes come from the east or from the west; they originate within one's own mind. Therefore, it is foolish to guard against misfortunes from the external world and leave the inner mind uncontrolled."
~Shakyamuni Buddha

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Friday, April 27, 2012

READ THIS

I have just finished reading my friend and fellow-blogger Fiona Robyn's new novel, and would love to have you read it, too.  I long ago gave up the long-held, conventional notion that I should not write about the work of people that I know and like, but I still feel it necessary to make that disclosure.  Make of it what you will.

Anyway, I loved Fiona's book.  It's called "The Most Beautiful Thing" and it is, indeed, beautifully conceived and written.  It's an easy read in the sense that the narrative is so compelling that we keep wanting to turn the pages--hooked on the story and anxious to find out what will happen next.  That's the quality of a good story-teller, knowing what to give out and what to hold back until it's needed; what to signal in advance and what to keep under wraps.

It's also a hard read.  It's hard because of Fiona's hero, Joe, who is, frankly, not an easy person to get along with.  We meet him at two stages of his life.  In the first half of the novel he is thirteen years old, and we see the world pretty much through the eyes of this man-child, borderline Asberger's, awkward in an entirely appropriate teenage way but also suffering from severe depression and isolation, an absence of the normal social skills, plagued by phobias and obsessive thoughts, deeply dependent.  He has been sent for reasons he does not fully understand--but which become increasingly clear to the reader--to spend some time with his aunt in Amsterdam.  His father, he knows, is remote, unable to express any real love or tenderness toward his son.  His mother is absent, suffering from some unspecified ailment about which the reader is left, in this first part, to speculate.

We learn in the second part that she has been suffering for years from debilitating psychiatric problems, severe enough to keep her institutionalized.  It is now fifteen years later; we are offered glimpses of the intervening years--the discovery of his mother's condition, the always unsatisfying relationship with his father, the perfunctory job and the difficulty in managing day-to-day contacts with colleagues and superiors, the a-sexual relationship with a live-in female partner... Having known Joe at thirteen, we are surprised by none of this.  We meet him again as he lands once again in Amsterdam, to visit his aunt for the first time since that first visit, and we find him ungrown in many ways, still obsessive, still haunted by his alienation from the world and those around him, still deep in chronic depression.

From this you will gather that Joe is not an easy person to like or admire in the conventional way.  What he has going for him is the unflagging understanding and compassion of his creator.  It is this quality, I think, that sweeps us up as readers and carries us along.  We care about this misfit.  We accompany Joe on his journey and come to see things through his eyes, compounding our "adult" understanding of his world and its diverse cast of characters and sharing his distress, sometimes his suicidal anguish as events and revelations overwhelm him.  Fiona's characters, by the way, are reliably off-beat, sometimes plainly weird, always fascinating.  Prominent among them are Joe's Dutch aunt, a struggling painter on the road to huge success, whose bohemian life style, complicated love life and infectious joie de vivre serve to animate even poor Joe; his memorably alcoholic grandfather; his melancholic, stoically British father; and his improbable love interest, a peripatetic lesbian with blue hair.  (I think of Lisbeth Salander, somehow, without the sado-masochism or the dragon tattoo...)

And Joe's journey--I won't reveal any of its surprises here--is a curiously twisted one, which easily combines sheer fantasy with laugh-out-loud comedy, pathos and, yes, tragedy.  Let me just say that it contains one of the strangest, oddly humorous, and surprisingly credible sex scenes I have ever read!  But it's always Joe at the center of it, Joe whose simplicity and innocence and incomprehension must surely strike a chord in the heart of anyone who has faced the world as a child or an adolescent and who still, in adulthood, is hard put to explain life's inexplicable vicissitudes or to confront the great, eternal mysteries of suffering, illness, aging and death.  Expect to be confronted by every one of them in this story.  Joe is, as it turns out, an everyman, a stand-in for the rest of us wounded, world-weary and bewildered human beings.

I admire the way Fiona reaches her--still provisional--conclusion.  As readers, we need the satisfaction of knowing that Joe has grown as a man and changed as a result of his experiences, and yet we know him well enough to disbelieve in the possibility of a miracle "cure."  He is incapable of radical change.  We sense that he will never be able to grow up. What the author finds is an entirely credible middle path, where her hero arrives at a place of adequate inner peace, acknowledging responsibility for his obsessions and taking into account his limitations in his dealings with the world; and recognizing that the present moment can be sufficient unto itself.  He looks out into the world, in the last pages, and discovers in its natural beauty something of value outside himself; and something, we think, finally worth living for.  The most beautiful thing is life itself.


Early Morning Buddhist Inspiration - 4/27/2012

"Endurance is one of the most difficult disciplines, but it is to the one who endures that the final victory comes."

~Shakyamuni Buddha

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"Endurance is one of the most difficult disciplines, but it is to the one who endures that the final victory comes."

~Shakyamuni Buddha

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Thursday, April 26, 2012

SECOND TERM SOCK

Please visit my Vote Obama 2012 blog for a further entry today.

AFTER THE RAIN...

... clear skies,
a wet pavement.
Breathe it in.

Early Morning Buddhist Inspiration - 4/26/2012

"Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared."
 
~Shakyamuni Buddha

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Early Morning Buddhist Inspiration - 4/26/2012

"Thousands of candles can be lit from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared."
 
~Shakyamuni Buddha

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Wednesday, April 25, 2012

SANITY

My thoughts went back last night, as I watched a recorded episode of Jon Stewart's The Daily Show, to a moment of glory for The Buddha Diaries when we were headlined in an article by Janet Malcolm in The New York Review of Books.  Ellie and I had traveled to Washington DC to join Stewart's "Rally to Restore Sanity" and Stephen Colbert's "March to Keep Fear Alive."  "On October 31," the article began,

Peter Clothier, a seventy-four-year-old author and retired professor, posted an entry on his blog, called The Buddha Diaries, about the wonderful day he and his wife Ellie had spent at the Jon Stewart and Stephen Colbert Rally to Restore Sanity and/or Fear on October 30 at the Mall in Washington, D.C., between noon and 3 PM. “We stood there trapped for a good two hours, surrounded by people who, like us, had showed up. We saw nothing, heard nothing of what was happening on the stage. It was great!” Clothier writes. He and Ellie had risen at 5:30 AM to catch a 6:45 Amtrak train from New York, which should have gotten them to the rally in time to not see and not hear for the full three hours. But they were detained by a horrendous and dangerous crush of people in the Washington Metro.
"The Metro system was utterly unprepared for the invasion,” Clothier writes. The station was “a mob scene.” “People were waiting in lines ten deep to board” and train after train went by “so full that not one single person could squeeze aboard.” However, with the exception of one angry man, who was “quelled by fellow passengers,” everyone kept his frustration in check and no one behaved badly.
It was a great occasion, but one that did not, finally, live up to its promise.  A quarter of a million people (the media hugely underestimated attendance) showed up that day at the end of October, 2010, drawn to Washington by a common distress at the dysfunction of our political system and the insanity of so much of the then-current political rhetoric.  We were "fed up, and we weren't going to take it any more."  Many of us--most, I suspect--had mistaken Stewart's and Colbert's strictly satirical intent; we were true, perhaps naive believers that our protest might just possibly begin to bring about some change.

Sadly, it didn't happen.  It didn't happen then, and it has not happened since.  In fact, I suspect that most of those who attended that rally would agree that things have only deteriorated into something worse.  The sanity we hoped for, a return to the rule of reason in our political house, remains the dream of the few who gather at the center--well, maybe, for the sake of reason, a little to the left!--to achieve a tempering of rhetoric and a more effective, more compassionate approach to government.  The chasm between left and right has grown wider and the exchanges across that chasm still more bitter and intransigent.  My own view, of course, is that it is principally the doing of a relatively small group of extremists on the right, whose fanaticism has served only to alienate Americans from each other and from the government that serves them--or should serve them better.

That moment was a missed opportunity.  The two principals, I'd argue, failed to recognize the meaning of the response to their appeal; they kept insisting that it was all a joke--albeit a serious one--and refusing to take it seriously.  Their audience had come expecting to be counted, and heard.  They were neither counted accurately, nor heard.  The insanity continues.  Most people I know throw up their hands in horror or despair when they listen to the news, and many chose simply not to listen.  We face the prospect of six more months of bitterness and lies, six more months of deceptive commercials and speeches that ignore the truth in favor of crowd-pleasing bumper-sticker cliches.  We long for the quiet voice of reasonable debate, but cheer when the message has to be pitched loud and angry by our besieged President.  When the other side is reduced to hurling personal insults and to predicting, literally and frequently, the end of America if Obama is reelected, the President must match the angry volume of their voices with his own, even as he seeks to present a rational alternative to the proven failure of their tired ideas.

But anyway, metta to all of them.  Goodwill, I say, to all our leaders and political aspirants. As Than Geoff says, tirelessly, the world would be a better place if we all found peace and happiness in our lives.

Early Morning Buddhist Inspiration - 4/25/2012

"An unreflecting mind is a poor roof. Passion, like the rain, floods the house. But if the roof is strong, there is shelter. Whoever follows impure thoughts suffers in this world and the next. In both worlds he suffers and greatly."
 
~Shakyamuni Buddha

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Early Morning Buddhist Inspiration - 4/25/2012

"An unreflecting mind is a poor roof. Passion, like the rain, floods the house. But if the roof is strong, there is shelter. Whoever follows impure thoughts suffers in this world and the next. In both worlds he suffers and greatly."
 
~Shakyamuni Buddha

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Tuesday, April 24, 2012

THE MOST BEAUTIFUL THING

I'll have more to say about my friend Fiona Robyn's new novel, "The Most Beautiful Thing," when I've had the chance to finish it.  Suffice it to say, at the moment, that I'm hooked by the both the story and the characters she creates.  Channeling an awkward thirteen-year-old boy in the throes of a difficult period of early adolescence, as she does in the part I have just now finished reading, is no easy feat and she manages it beautifully.  I'm charmed by his curiosity and his natural smarts as well as by his social anxieties he begins to explore who he is in his relationship to himself and those around him.  I'm looking forward to the second part...


In the meantime, this very Tuesday is "The Most Beautiful Thing" day worldwide.  Today and tomorrow, Fiona is offering free copies on Kindle in the hope of attracting new readers. Consider this my recommendation to readers of The Buddha Diaries to take her up on her offer.  You won't get a better one all year!  


I'll let you know when my own response to it appears on my site at The Hufffington Post and Goodreads.  Meantime, here's Fiona's offer and some early reviews.  We all know how hard it is, in today's competitive world of publishing, to attract that readership.  I hope that you'll join hers:


"This book really is a beautiful thing. Definitely the best book I've read this year." ~Jackie Stewart
 Hello friends, (writes Fiona)
Today (Tuesday 24th) and tomorrow, my new novel 'The Most Beautiful Thing' is free on the Kindle (which also means you can read it for free on your computer or phone). 

Please help yourself here in the UK or here in the US. If you're elsewhere you should be able to find it on your own Amazon. 
Do offer your friends something lovely by forwarding this email to them (and if it was forwarded to you, pass it on!) There's no catch although I'm not just giving it away because I'm nice - it's helpful for me to reach out to new readers, and I trust that some of you will recommend the book to others or write a review on Amazon. Do tweet or share it on Facebook (sample tweet: The Most Beautiful Thing - meet Joe in a five-star-reviewed novel. Free on Kindle today: http://bit.ly/GGzkMe).
If you like real proper books, you can treat yourself here: Amazon UK / Amazon US. 
If you want to find out more about me or our mindful writing offerings here we are: Writing Our Way Home. And here are some more reviews of the novel to help you decide. 
Have lovely days all!  Fiona x 
 "Wow! Just finished your wonderful novel "The Most Beautful Thing!" Full of rich and quirky characters, intense family drama, multicultural influences, and the exploration of a deep and very important subject matter. I highly recommend this fabulous book!" ~slonurse on Amazon.com
  
 "This story kept me awake into the wee small hours, I simply couldn't put it down. I have recommended this book to all my friends and have already given two as gifts." ~Mary McC on Amazon.co.uk   


"I loved this book. I will read it many more times." ~Bikerchick on Amazon.co.uk   


"Fiona Robyn captures beautifully the outsider in gently affectionate prose. Joe is an outsider, an insecure, bookish, distant teenager. In two slices of Joe's life the author manages to capture the complexity that so many teenage boys and young men grapple with. Sexual frustration, the retreat into books, facts, figures, anything to repel the difficulties presented by a world filled with the puzzle of other people. From the perspective of middle age I can identify with so much experienced by Joe, both as a teenager and a young adult, and am amazed at the perspicacity of Fiona Robyn in capturing it so well." ~Anthony Foley via Amazon.com   


"Lovely, vivid, capturing. I didn't want to stop reading this once I started. What a wonderful job of capturing the beauty and agony of family!" ~Brandi Trevisan via Goodreads   


"Beautifully observed, tender, thoughtful and insightful, this book twists and turns in the way that life does...revealing beauty and dysfunction. This is a memorable book; a truly beautiful thing; a story that stays with you long after you read it. Definitely the best book I've read this year." ~Jackie Stewart


"The hero has a number of psychological traits often associated with Asperger's syndrome, such as social awkwardness, obsession with specific fields of knowledge, and picky eating habits, but these are not pathologized or even diagnosed in the course of the novel. Instead, they simply form part of who he is. They contribute to some -- but not all -- of his weaknesses, and also to his strengths, such as the good job he gets in the British weather service and even more so to the way he never judges others on whether they fit into social norms. I was impressed by the way a woman writer could portray a character so different from herself so well." ~KrisHL on Amazon.com

Early Morning Buddhist Inspiration - 4/24/2012

"Let go of anger. Let go of pride. When you are bound by nothing...you go beyond sorrow."
~Shakyamuni Buddha

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"Let go of anger. Let go of pride. When you are bound by nothing...you go beyond sorrow."
~Shakyamuni Buddha

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Monday, April 23, 2012

OUR NEW MASTER TEACHER...

... Luka!  You may attribute my silence in the past couple of days to this young character...



... (seen here wearing Grandpa's hat,) who came down to spend the weekend with us at our cottage in Laguna Beach.  You may remember that he was a little devil last Wednesday, his day with his grandparents; this weekend he was a little angel.  Well, most of the time.  There were a few devilish moments.  Anyway, it was a joy for us to have him with us, and his mom and, for at least a few hours on Sunday, his dad, down from Los Angeles.  Here he is again, none to sure about his first spoon-fed banana...



You can imagine, perhaps, if you yourself have babies or grand-babies, that there was little time for rest or relaxation.  It's a good number of years since we had one around, and the human memory is mercifully forgetful of the more difficult moments.  The agony of sleeplessness, anxiety, and generally coping with the needs of the littlest among us recedes, like pain, into the past.  It is easier, as grandparents, without the ultimate responsibility for those needs.

I did, however, take time to go to sangha Sunday morning.  After the sit, we got into a discussion about tolerance, and the frequent misunderstanding of the Buddhist teachings on this subject.  It does not mean, as Than Geoff frequently reminds us, that the Buddha expects us to be a doormat; tolerance does not mean ovine acceptance of every circumstance.  Rather it means a skillful acknowledgement of the reality of a situation, and the wisdom to deal with it appropriately.

A good lesson, then, for the weekend.

Early Morning Buddhist Inspiration - 4/23/2012

"To the one who endures, the final victory comes."
~Shakyamuni Buddha


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Early Morning Buddhist Inspiration - 4/23/2012

"To the one who endures, the final victory comes."
~Shakyamuni Buddha


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Saturday, April 21, 2012

Early Morning Buddhist Inspiration - 4/21/2012

"How long the night to the watchman, how long the road to the weary traveller, how long the wandering of many lives to the fool who misses the way."

~Shakyamuni Buddha
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Early Morning Buddhist Inspiration - 4/21/2012

"How long the night to the watchman, how long the road to the weary traveller, how long the wandering of many lives to the fool who misses the way."

~Shakyamuni Buddha
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SITTING

Sitting
outside, early
morning.  The indefatigable
conversation of birds.

Friday, April 20, 2012

Meet the Buddha in Nature.

We all love the stunning beauty of the great Buddhist temples and shrines that stir the heart spiritually. However, I have found just as much spiritual inspiration in the forests and mountains as any ancient holy site. Perhaps that's because since I was a small boy, here in the mountains of Colorado, I have spent countless hours communing with the whispering pines and listening to the profound babbling of the meandering streams. Stood with rapture and awe atop the highest mountain-tops, as well as meditated in fields of wildflowers whose perfumes were every bit as relaxing as temple incense.

All of these wonders and shines in nature sooth even the most anxious mind into a state of pure relaxation and total awareness. For who can't stand in mindful wonder when gazing upon a misty, shrouded peak, or a dazzling stream? Is it any wonder than that many of the Buddhist holy shrines are built atop mountains and deep within forests? The Buddha was a nature lover himself.

The cities were too chaotic for a mind seeking rest, and so Buddha gave himself to nature. Fasting, he meditated under a sturdy tree, pondering the meaning of life. At night the twinkling stars would keep watch and give him encouragement toward realizing the world-changing revelations that his deep meditation would bring us. It was in nature that he came to the profound conclusion of Buddhism--balance. He found that fasting, or starving himself did not take away his suffering. But, he also knew his former princely life of gluttony wasn't satisfying either. For him, it was only on a balanced, middle-path that mental freedom could be found. He saw in nature that one plant or animal can not exist or survive without other plants and animals. This harmony and balance of a middle path between extremes would come to settle his mind to where the Dharma would pour from his newly balanced mind.

It is our calling as Buddhists today to return to Mother Nature, meditate within and work to protect it for future generations. If you have trouble feeling mindful, aware or present when meditating, try doing it out in nature. Only, don't close your eyes...leave them wide open but otherwise meditate as usual and I bet you that you will have an easier time centering into that present moment in nature than almost anywhere else. If you live in a city with no real nature to go into then try a public park, a backyard or a bike path where there are often benches. You can just sit there quietly and look ahead at the nature--the life unfolding right in front of you and sync it with your deep breathing. It will empty you of stress and rejuvenate your body better than a pot of coffee. And, to those passing by on the path they just see you sitting with your eyes open, smiling perhaps and enjoying the park/bike path/open space. They won't have any idea that you are deeply meditating. For this reason, it's a nice way to meditate in public without drawing unwanted attention.

PHOTO: I took this picture of the gurgling stream above Miller Falls near Tracy City, Tennessee in 2011.

---i bow to all beings known and unknown~

HOLOCAUST REMEMBRANCE DAY

Holocaust Remembrance Day came and went with barely a murmur from the media this year. I'm in no position to judge: I myself remembered only after the twenty-four hour day ended, at six o'clock last night. And remembered only because, after watching the newest film version of "Jane Eyre," we happened upon a moving PBS program on our television set. We came in half way through; I didn't catch the title, and a Google search has not proved helpful.

Suffice it to say that the film was a documentary about the Krakow Jewish Culture Festival, an initiative on the part of one dedicated, non-Jewish Pole to recover some of the rich pre-Holocaust culture of his country's past. Fleeting sequences that revisited life in the pre-war shtetls and Jewish urban communities and, with commendable brevity, in the death camps during that dark period of history were montaged with interviews with survivors and the living relatives of those who did not survive. There were also scenes of a modern-day memorial ceremony at Auschwitz-Birkenau, where survivors and their families, along with a small army of rabbis and cantors gathered to remember, yes, but also to mark the triumph of the Jewish people over the attempt to obliterate them from the earth. In the most moving of these scenes, an ancient Torah that had, too, miraculously survived, was unrolled--unusually, to its full length--and wrapped in a kind of protective ritual around an inner circle of those who had lived through, and beyond that monstrous cataclysm.

Much of the footage, though, was devoted to the music of the festival, with cantor soloists, men and women, blending their marvelous voices with great, soaring choruses in the rendering of those profoundly melancholy--and, too, profoundly joyful--songs that are the age-old heritage of the religion. Very lovely and, at times, quite heart-breaking in their all-encompassing humanity. It was a good way to remember, overwhelming all that is potentially cruel and destructive in our species with all that is potentially good and fruitful. I'm glad to have been reminded, and not too late--never too late--that now is as good a time as any to remember what must never be forgotten.

Early Morning Buddhist Inspiration - 4/20/2012

"The discipline which I have imparted to you will lead you when I am gone. Practice to attain the goal of enlightenment and awakening."

~Shakyamuni Buddha

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Early Morning Buddhist Inspiration - 4/20/2012

"The discipline which I have imparted to you will lead you when I am gone. Practice to attain the goal of enlightenment and awakening."

~Shakyamuni Buddha

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Thursday, April 19, 2012

ONE OF THOSE DAYS


Our little grandson Luka must have rolled out of bed the wrong side yesterday. It was his Wednesday with Grandma and Grandpa, and he was not too pleased with the arrangement. Maybe it was the shot he was so rudely given on Monday that left him in a bad mood. Maybe it was the two first teeth that are making an appearance through his lower gums. Maybe he had been listening to the news on television. No matter the cause, he grumbled all day, start to finish, and made no secret of his discontent. Maybe, as a neighbor concluded when he bawled at her from his stroller, it was just "one of those days."

Here he is at one of his better moments:


Pensive, might the word. Awaiting the arrival of the next storm. He seemed happy enough when his mom arrived, after work, to pick him up.

Ah, yes, the news. The scandals. The secret service prostitute payment scandal. The GSA Las Vegas scandal. The pictures of grinning US service men, mugging for the camera with Taliban body parts--pictures deemed of vital newsworthiness by the Los Angeles Times. Oh, and that scandalous slap-in-the-face to American motherhood on the part of a "Democratic strategist." Will it never end? And Romney rebounds, while the President's numbers slide. Obama is held accountable for all disasters, foreign and domestic; and credited for none of his successes. If I were him, I'd be bawling all day like little Luka.




Early Morning Buddhist Inspiration - 4/19/2012

"If there is no other world and there is no fruit and ripening of actions well done or ill done, then here and now in this life I shall be free from hostility, affliction, and anxiety, and I shall live happily."

~Shakyamuni Buddha


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